I have had discussions with my son in the past about things that he wasn’t allowed to do. Whether that be playing further away from the house when he was little, staying up late, drinking fizzy drinks or eating sweets that will eventually rot his teeth. At first, when he was little, he listened and most of the time he did as he was told because I’m his Mum and at that age, to him, I knew best.
Then as he got older he started to think for himself and develop his own idea of what was good for him or what situations posed a threat. It’s not that he wasn’t listening to me anymore, it was that he thought he knew better, which is the case with most teenagers, myself included.
When I was 16 I thought I knew everything! My friend and I were going to buy a house together and our lives would be awesome. To us at that point it was that simple, there were no restrictions, what was there to stop us? Well money for a start but the idea itself was a simple enough one.
My point is I thought that was it, as a teenager you don’t tend to look to the future, you think being 30 is old and that everything that is happening at that moment is the be all and end all.
♥ I wish I had had the foresight to know that ‘that boy’ was not the boy I was going to marry, he certainly wasn’t the man of my dreams and he was not the most important thing in the world. In all honest he was a douche and probably still is.
However all of those douche bags that somehow made it on to my radar, made my brain take a mental note to remind my older self to pick the opposite in future and ultimately lead me to the real man of my dreams. ⇓
π You should focus on the things you love, no matter how uncool or nerdy or stupid other people may find them. Those other people are not important and your real friends will not ridicule you for doing things that you love. Plus when you find the things you love and do those things you will also find the like minded people who you share an interest with and they will become your new awesome best friends.
∞ Going to University for 3 years is nothing, it’s barely a blink of an eye in the rest of your life, but make sure it’s to do something you love. Don’t do it for someone else, this is to shape the rest of your life. Not theirs.
♠ Get out in to the world now. Travel as much as you can. Apply for that job abroad. You have absolutely no idea what might be just around the corner. Time works in weird ways, it may only be an illusion but unfortunately it still passes.
♦ DO NOT, I repeat DO NOT! put your dreams on hold for a friend/boyfriend/girlfriend. If they really love and care for you they will not make you stop reaching your goals.
They should be supportive and encouraging you, not holding you back. If your dreams and goals involve travel or working abroad then that friend/boyfriend/girlfriend will still be there when you get back and if they aren’t then they weren’t worth it in the first place. This is a really tough one because at that age you think he/she is the love of your life and you can’t live without them. This is a good lesson to learn early on because you will need it at various points in your life ♥
™ Experimentation! No not drugs and alcohol. I’m talking about sexuality, make-up, clothes. Yes okay sexuality might be a bit more ‘out there’ than make-up and clothes but if you’re all consenting adults then there’s no harm in it.
If you want to wear one green neon leg warmer and one orange neon leg warmer with a denim mini skirt and a boob tube then go for it! ( I actually love the sound of that). Team that with some 90’s Chun-Li hair and bright red lipstick and you’re good to go.
You don’t have to follow the trend, wear what the hell you like! If you feel comfortable in your clothes you will ooze confidence.
I know we learn these life lessons to make us who we are and it really isn’t as much fun to just be told of experiences, you have to be out there and live them yourself. You have to make the mistakes, cry yourself to sleep over the ‘love of your life’, you’ll think that nobody has ever felt that pain before and your parents don’t know what you’re going through. Well they do. They’ve been there. They’ve defied their parents. They’ve had their hearts broken.
Then they had you and their entire perspective on life changed, now the world is a scary place because they have a baby to protect, yes even when you’re 17. They worry because they know how it feels and they don’t want you to feel that pain. Unfortunately the parents sometimes forget how fun it was being fearless and carefree.
I think the most important thing I wish I’d known when I was 16 was that my parents only ever did and said the things they did and said to protect me. It wasn’t to ruin my life or stop me having fun, if anything it was the opposite.
Just remember that the next time your Mum or Dad want to know where you’re going, who you’ll be with and when you’ll be back.
Have fun, be safe and don’t let it get you down! Please just go and have an adventure (safely) ♥
Don’t ever let anyone make you think you’re not good enough.
Follow your dreams right now! Don’t wait until tomorrow,
next week, next year. Stop planning, start doing 🙂
Be happy and keep smiling 🙂