We are all bound to go through things in our lives and whatever your circumstances it’s all relative to you personally.
It irks me when people say things like,
“You’ve got to be brave”
“It could be worse”
Well yes, I’m sure it could be worse but that does not stop the feelings of pain, anger, hurt, defeat, self pity, loathing, deep sadness or betrayal.
Also who says you’ve got to be brave? Why? Who for? Sometimes we don’t want to be brave, sometimes we want to curl up and hide.
I admire the people who, I know, have really been tested every day. The Universe is hugely relentless.
If you see someone who seems to be effortlessly coasting through life, nothing bad ever happens to them, then they’re just really good at hiding it.
Bad s**t happens every day to countless people, it just does. The way we come out the other side defines and shapes us.
I’m not saying there is a set precedent for how to handle life, I’m just saying it shows your spirit, your soul and it builds you up ready for the next trial that life throws your way.
If you choose to show the world your game face, never faltering, but you go home and fall to pieces, that’s fine.
If you have a meltdown in public and are a complete mess, that’s fine too.
Any which way you deal with trauma and devastation is your way of dealing with your trauma and devastation.
The important part is when you’ve done screaming and thrashing, what do you do then? You put yourself back together at your own pace, in your own way.
There is no time limit.
In the past two years and more recently I have seen extraordinary women deal with unimaginable pain. I’ve seen them deal with a torrent of turmoil which would easily be a reason to push them over the edge.
And maybe it did, maybe these ladies did tap out for a while, they didn’t get dressed for a week, they might have lived on fish fingers and didn’t brush their teeth.
Whatever they did and didn’t do is none of anyone’s business. Gone are the days of ‘stiff upper lip’. You are allowed to cry and fall apart or not cry and fall apart. Do what you feel. Not what everyone else expects you to do.
The world is a beautiful amalgamation of original people and we deal with things in our own time in our own unique ways. We can learn as we watch how people around us shift and grow through their own experiences.
I have been given encouragement and inspiration from these people in my life, these super women who, to them, are just living their lives the best way they know how, to me they are paving the way for their children, grand-children and ultimately the world.
I love them for their strength, resilience, their indomitable spirit and I am in awe of them every day. Their strength astounds me.
Don’t ever let anyone make you think you’re not good enough.
Follow your dreams right now! Don’t wait until tomorrow,
next week, next year. Stop planning, start doing 🙂
Be happy and keep smiling 🙂 (but only if you want to) 😛
Made A Hames 