Chris Pratt announced on his Facebook page recently that him and Anna Faris were splitting up. It was made clear that they had tried to make it work but they have made the amicable decision to part ways.
As you would expect on social media the world suddenly became a giant marriage counsellor. Some people in particular even made it their business to tell Chris and Anna that they should stay together for the sake of the child.
This is the dumbest advice I have ever known anyone to give people in a relationship or marriage.
It’s just as bad as people thinking that having a child in the first place is a way to fix a relationship or bring them closer together.
People fall in love, sometimes they get married, sometimes it doesn’t work out and they get divorced. Not only is it none of anyone else’s business but it’s also not the end of the world.
If you can work through issues that is great, if you feel that there really is something worth saving then please give it your all.
However if you’re just tying to keep things together for the sake of the children, please don’t. They will see through the facade.
Do you really want a resentful environment for your children? For them to realise when they’re older that ultimately they were the reason for their parents unhappiness?
Your children would much rather be surrounded by love, peace and happiness, not fighting and anger.
I was told that there was obviously something wrong with me, mentally, when I wanted to end my marriage and that I should get help.
Well if that’s how people are viewed when they are unhappy in a relationship then no wonder people stay in loveless marriages. You shouldn’t bully or guilt people in to staying married and children are never the reason to stay together. They are the reason that you make the whole situation comfortable and happy as much as you possibly can.
If someone confides in you in relation to their marital problems please don’t make them feel like they are doing something wrong. You do not know the battles that have gone on behind closed doors, you don’t know how many times they have gone round and round in circles arguing the same thing over and over. You don’t really know the other person, they might have the public profile of a saint but indoors they might be Satan. Divorce is obviously the last resort and I’m fairly certain that most people do not enter in to that decision lightly.
Try to put your religious views aside for a moment and just be a human being.
Don’t ever let anyone make you think you’re not good enough.
Follow your dreams right now! Don’t wait until tomorrow,
next week, next year. Stop planning, start doing 🙂
Made A Hames 