We all want to find ‘the one’, fall in love and live happily ever after.
I’m a big fan of the kind of shows where people are looking for love. I always watched ‘Blind Date’, I am an avid fan of ‘First Dates’ and I’m glued to the TV for ‘Undateables’.
I suppose I’m a true romantic at heart and quite a big softy. It’s a beautiful feeling to watch someone fall in love; with some people you just ‘know’.
Whilst watching Undateables recently I was a little bit upset by what at first I felt was slightly exploitative.
Obviously these people have disabilities, mental and/or physical. They want and deserve love as much as the next person. However, some of them do not have fully developed mental capabilities, potentially causing them to think differently about certain things.
We follow these “Undateables” in their search for a partner and we do hope that they find their ‘happy ever after’.
The part of show that makes me slightly uncomfortable though is when the participants are ‘interviewed’ after their first initial date. Many of them are asked if they think they might be in love and if they believe that they have met ‘the one’. The participants then answer this enthusiastically and with such honesty, with a wonderful purity.
At first this interaction made me angry. It felt as though they were exploiting them for the public’s entertainment.
After all after the first dates on ‘First Dates’ they don’t ask those participants if they are now in love after meeting their date only once.
I then decided to look at this with a more positive attitude and although I’m fairly certain that this isn’t the reason for those questions being asked, it’s better to always look on the bright side. Who was it that decided that we can’t decide straight away if we’ve met ‘the one’?
Maybe because their minds are so free from the bulls**t that we fill ours with they get to see things more clearly, they can just ‘be’. They’re openly honest and don’t feel the restrictions that we constantly place on ourselves.
I understand that it tends to be bad practice to declare your undying love for someone on a first date but surely everyone has that inkling or feeling when they meet ‘the one’, why shouldn’t we be more honest about our feelings?
I’m pretty sure that back when we were hunter gatherers we didn’t wait for three months before we declared our love. We’ve just placed a desperation on it now and been told that if you’re too keen you’ll scare them away and the other person believes this to be true so if someone is too keen too quick they do a runner!
After all isn’t it it wonderful feeling to be in love and be told that you’re in love ♥
Don’t ever let anyone make you think you’re not good enough.
Follow your dreams right now! Don’t wait until tomorrow,
next week, next year. Stop planning, start doing 🙂
Be happy and keep smiling 😀